Making The Decision is not easy!

Mark Twain once said that ‘ You are never wrong to do the right thing’. We all always know what is the right thing to do but we almost never do it until a force of situations makes us do otherwise. We are all stuck in a rut even after we see a way out.

I once read somewhere that in a psychological practical test, few dogs were kept in a cage and they were given shock from a panel underneath and the ceiling was open but was high so dogs could not jump out I guess. The shock would make the dogs jump in air and they would try to escape but because of the height of that cage they could not so they would drop back down and get another shock. After a while, the doctors opened one part of the cage and noticed that the dogs still jumped in the same way when they were given shock. They just did not move out from the open exit. Its like they had some sort of fear of unknown as they could not do anything at the initial phases to save themselves so now they somehow know that they can’t save themselves and its sad to see that they have adjusted to the circumstances even when there is a way out.

How different are we from these poor dogs? I don’t think we are any different from them. If once we get hurt or see someone getting hurt then we make that as a pattern in our brain.

We almost always know inside what needs to be done but how often do we do it? I am not talking about small confrontational things which you do after a long thought, for example, you know you have to have a talk with someone so you make sure you do it after overthinking it for sometime but what about those bigger decisions which you often think about but seldom take action on?

I always knew in my past relationships that I needed to move on but I kept on with it until it became offensively disturbing to stay. We all do it. Right? I stayed at my last job even when I had a real way out of joining a business partnership, something I wanted to do for so long but the fear of unknown stopped or should I say jammed my feet.

Why are we like this? I wish we were more honest with ourselves than with others. I wish I could take more risks. I wish we all could. How else would I ever overcome the fear of unknown. For now, I consider this as a much required intervention which I would do in a near future. When will you do it?

When will you stand in front of the mirror and say out loud if your job is working for you or not. What do you need to do to change it? What steps you will have to take from today to find something your heart desires in future? When will you have that conversation with your beloved and say honestly what you feel? When will you stop cheating with yourself?

I am not blaming you. I know its very tough and if it wasn’t then we all must have been living life in different ways with its new and scary challenges. As a basic nature of human, we are a community, hunters and we are trained from medieval era to be with everyone and the way to be with everyone is to stay in harmony. How do you stay in harmony? By not hurting anyone. So what do you do instead? Hurt yourself.

We are wired to be fearful of the unknown but if push comes to shove, we can take that bloody spear and hit bulls eye.